Acceptance to Overcome Difficult Moments
An attitude of acceptance is key to facing life’s challenges, difficulties, and problems.
You can only aspire to an internal transformation when you accept yourself exactly as you are.
Change only occurs after the total acceptance of our Self. To change the way you think, feel, and act, you must also accept others, the world, as well as all your past experiences, even the most dramatic ones. Change is not done; it is allowed to happen.
What is Acceptance?
Acceptance is the action of accepting the world, ourselves, others, and, above all, the unpredictability of life.
It is common to hear that life is not fair, and horrible things happen to good people. It is true. The fact that life is unpredictable and that we do not have full control over what happens to us creates imbalances and anguish that are difficult to face.
It is not always easy to live the principle of acceptance. A person who accepts himself, with his past, qualities and defects, will surely go much further in life and will have a better chance of achieving his goals, as well as serving as an inspiration to those close to him.
If the person does not accept the qualities, defects, and limitations he or she possesses, he or she is fragmented.
It is easy to confuse acceptance with resignation, when, in fact, the one has nothing to do with the other.
Acceptance reminds us that we can learn to flow with life, to recognize what is in the present moment. Not realizing it leads us headlong into suffering, because behind the resistance to acknowledge what is, there is a demand for things to be different from what they are.
To accept is not, therefore, synonymous with resignation. Nor does it mean renouncing to change things. We can accept life as it presents itself, and at the same time, take the action we consider necessary.
Acceptance tells us that we can unlearn the well-known neural route of fight-or-flight. We can learn to stay in life, instead of trying to escape it, or getting frustrated because things are not as we wanted them to be.
Loving what is means nodding to reality and then, from this attitude of acceptance and surrender, doing what we feel we have or want to do.
It is a matter of acknowledging reality, saying yes to what is, and tuning in to what is now as it is.
Usually, acceptance at this level is not something that happens all at once; instead, it is a gradual process. Acceptance means loosening up and opening up to what is before us, giving up the struggle.
By ceasing to struggle with things as they are, we discover in ourselves more energy to heal and transform what has become conscious.
From acceptance, new paths of deep understanding open up. By training ourselves in acceptance, we are saying yes to a life that is not stuck in fear, resentment, or anger. From acceptance, we can live with more serenity.
Nothing is Permanent, Except Change
Change is vital and inevitable in any individual; it is implicit in the acceptance of ourselves and the world. It is the only way to achieve a full life.
Most of the frustrations and anxieties we face come from wanting to be what we are not. It is not possible to be happy and feel complete without accepting ourselves.
The person who accepts himself has more opportunities to be happy in his relationships, and his profession knows how to deal with his inner conflicts.
To live in acceptance is to be at ease with yourself and with others. It is developing inner skills. It is getting to live the here-and-now. To live in acceptance is to be authentic.
Freedom is nothing more than opening your eyes to the world and others and closing your ears to the voices that are born of fear.
Whoever manages to accept life as it is, will always be better able to deal with any adverse circumstances.
Accepting our reality is nothing more than surrendering to the evidence that there are things that cannot be altered.
There are good things, there are bad things, but there is nothing we can do about it. On the other hand, the positive only exists as opposed to the negative.
Acceptance is knowing that everything in life is always in motion. By assuming this reasoning as true, the need to control everything disappears, leading to a decrease in stress and anxiety.